Do I Practice What I Preach? (habits, maintenance, and backsliding)

Hazel preaching, maybe about maintenance.

I don’t know what I’m “preaching” about here, but this Jumbotron photo from NAPO2014 cracks me up!

I was helping a long-time virtual coaching client with email maintenance, teaching her about Inbox Zero, and I admitted that mine was currently more like Inbox 200. In fact, I continued to say, I don’t do ANYthing (such as maintaining email files) EVERY day.

She was relieved to hear it.

Clients seem to enjoy it when I admit to shortcomings, because it makes me seem more human. More like them. Which I am, in more ways than not. Here are some earlier written confessions:

So, do I practice what I preach? Yes, and no.

Do I make my bed, do my dishes, and sort my mail into an action file every single day without fail? No.

Do I put things away that I got out to use during the day? Yes. Always? No.

But I do these things more days than not.

Do I think it’s OK to skip a day, or a week? Yes. I do. But it wouldn’t work for everyone. And I don’t think that pointing out loopholes right up front would be helpful. It would be like telling a teenager: “OK, you know the speed limit is 60, right? But if you are careful, and if traffic is light and there are no cops around, you can probably get away with going 70.” It might be true, and there might be some students in the class who would keep that concept in mind and not abuse it, but what self-respecting drivers training instructor would actually say that to a student? Do they do it themselves, though? Probably.

Habits make things easier.

The point of creating a daily habit is that you don’t have to think, every day, “Am I going to do it today? If not, when am I going to do it?” It’s SO MUCH EASIER to just do it daily. I have a few good habits, and a few bad ones. I am, according to Gretchen Rubin’s book Better Than Before, and her Four Tendencies quiz, a Questioner. With a streak of Rebel. (Which does not help one bit.) So I tend to make things harder on myself than they would be for, say, an Upholder or an Obliger.

Do I practice MOST of the things I preach MOST of the time? Yes. Often enough that if you visited my home, or examined my calendar, you would agree I am pretty organized! Can I find my scissors when I need them? Yes. Do I get things done on time? Yes. Can I help YOU get organized? Absolutely!

Besides, whoever said getting organized and staying that way was easy? Not me, in these blog articles:

Find maintenance strategies that work for you.

Here are a few examples:

Know this: Backsliding is normal.

Everybody takes a day off now and then. And things happen – illness, travel, emergencies, etc. And things slide. The house gets messy, you forget an appointment because your system of task and calendar management got interrupted. It’s not that it was a bad system. If it worked for you before, it can still work for you. Just get back on track easily as soon as you can without beating yourself up about it.

But…is it even considered backsliding if you do it on purpose? I don’t think so. I think you may have just found your sweet spot between being orderly, being productive…and just being yourself.

Consider, though, that you may just be procrastinating. Procrastination is a resistance to doing the thing…but why? Does it not sound fun? Do you not know how to do it? Have you not broken it down into do-able steps? Are you not convinced it needs doing? Are you a perfectionist? Perfection can sometimes be about fear of how others will perceive you. Good enough is, most of the time, good enough. And done is, almost always, better than perfect.

So, if I don’t practice what I preach, at least not to the letter, not all the time, why do I not feel like a failure? Because I have systems in place that work for me. And everything has a home. And I know how to get back on track when I need to. And because I believe in myself.

Last confession of the day: Sometimes, if my house is a mess and I haven’t cleaned up before bedtime, I do think, “I hope I don’t die tonight!” You know… lest “they” think my house is always that way. Yikes + LOL!

Let me ask you: Do YOU practice what YOU preach?

Does this blog article make you feel better about taking a day off?

Please share in the comments below!

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  1. I like the mantra: Progress equals Happiness. We are all works in progress and if we are going in the right direction life does feel pretty good. I agree that we letting our own humanness shine through gives others the courage to be themselves. Why do we tend to apologize when people come to our house when it is not ‘perfect’? That is one of my pet peeves! I want to be the person that is warm, welcoming, and not worried about being perfect!

  2. Okay, I confess… I give lots of advice on blogging and social media to my clients and followers, but I DON’T always do the things I recommend. What I’m doing is working for me, and although I know I could probably do a few things better, if it comes down to spending an hour tweaking my blog post title or spending that same hour on a client project, it’s a no-brainer which one is the priority.

  3. I am pretty good about practicing what I preach, but sometimes when it is just me at home alone, I am tempted to not put everything back right away. Funny that I am more vulnerable to slacking when no one else is home… I guess no one else to be surprised or shocked or hold me accountable!

  4. Great advice! Last week I had a TV crew coming to shoot some segments and we were going to shoot in 4 different areas of my home. Was everything ready to go with no work? Absolutely not!!! But since I have systems in place the tidying went much quicker than even I anticipated.

  5. I am very good at practising what I preach until I am the only one at home then I let things be more relaxed because I am not setting an example for anyone. I do agree that setting habits and routines make thing happen almost automatically and take a lot less energy and time then when you need to figure out what to do each time something occurs.

    • My most recent example of identifying with this was the last time I had a houseguest. Things were spotless (guest had her own quarters to mess up as she chose, but common areas kept tidy). A day after she left I looked around (common areas) and thought, “What happened here?” LOL!

  6. I have a smaller home so I keep things neat and put things away after I use them and prefer to do the one in two out method when possible. These habits have kept me from cluttering up the home when I just don’t have the time to clean. I too change systems and realize that certain systems don’t work. I think the important point is that i learn what works for me and my family so I don’t judge myself if I need to change a system. Thanks for sharing, Hazel!

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