Do you believe in yourself? Always? Or do you sometimes lose faith?
Life is hard. We all go through tough times personally, and lately it seems like the rest of the world is on the brink of disaster too.
Even if you generally have confidence, and strength, and a grateful, positive attitude… even if all of your physical, emotional, and spiritual needs are met, for the most part… everyone gets weary from time to time.
So…I was thinking about this favorite quote (which is anonymous as far as I know):
A bird sitting on a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking because her trust is not on the branch, but on her own wings. Always believe in yourself.
And I had an idea.
The Accomplishment List
But first, have you ever done the exercise where you make a list of your past accomplishments to remind yourself how awesome you are, and to lift your spirits when needed?
It’s a worthwhile exercise, if you haven’t!
Just sit quietly, with pen and paper, and think about your life, starting when you were young. What do you remember doing that you are proud of? Write it down. Have you ever won an award? Developed a skill? Write them down. Did you earn a degree or certificate? Solve a problem? Raise children? Write them down. What did you help someone with that really made a difference? Write it down. Can you list 10 things? 50? Keep the list handy so you can refer to it, and add to it.
The Survival List
Well…(and here is my new idea)…I decided to make a list of unfortunate events that I have overcome — survived — in my life:
- physical health issues
- relationship breakups
- career downsizing and lost job opportunities
- death of a parent
- sudden and extremely expensive car and home repairs
- home burglaries
- deaths of friends and pets
- financial difficulties
Do these sound familiar to anyone else? I’m sure there’s more. I’ll add them to my private list as I think of them.
But….ack! Why on earth would I want to make such a depressing list?!?!
Because things happen. (Branches break.)
And thus far I’ve overcome them all. (I’ve learned to trust my own wings!)
I find that reassuring…don’t you?
If something happens — and it always does (branches break) — I just think, “OK, what am I going to do about it?” (Trust my own wings, that’s what.) And, after a suitable period of feeling sorry for myself, if it’s something within my control, I take action.
Really, what’s to be afraid of? In some ways, hasn’t the worst already happened to most of us? And here we still are.
Which reminds me of another anonymous quote:
On particularly rough days when I’m sure I can’t possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad bays so far is 100% and that’s pretty good.
What have YOU overcome that makes you realize you really have nothing to worry about, or to be afraid of?
Extra points if you didn’t just endure the circumstances, but overcame them by using (or developing) your survival skills.
(If you are still worried and fearful, perhaps you need to consult The Worry Matrix.)
Please share with us in the comments. Or, if you prefer, just make your own private list.
Remember: Always believe in yourself!
And (quote origin debatable): Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind. Always.
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