I don’t normally make New Year’s resolutions, per se, much less advertise them. This one came from being hard on myself right out of the 2018 gate for goals I already felt behind on in the new year.
One of the several things I had not done yet, that I had planned to do, was to send New Year’s cards. It’s not too late to do it, but meanwhile I’ve realized a few things:
- It wasn’t really planned at all. It definitely wasn’t a S.M.A.R.T. goal! I had not yet decided who all was getting cards, nor had I chosen a design, crafted a message, or updated my address list. What chance did that plan have to be successful? None.
- I was violating my own rule about No More Holiday Card Guilt! I’m full of ideas that work for me, and for many others…but I sometimes forget to take my own advice.
- All goals, to-do lists, and systems need to be reviewed and adjusted periodically. And I’ve decided not to send New Year’s Cards after all. I have a better idea…for me…for this year.
Choosing a theme word for the year is popular amongst my organizing and coaching colleagues. The closest I’ve ever come is to choose a motto, my favorite being Progress equals Happiness. But really, I can apply that motto to ANY goal or theme, can’t I?
This year’s theme is: CONNECT
Why? Because introverts are sometimes prone to over-isolating themselves. And I think I’d be happier if I connected a little more. I need to re-find my connection and socializing sweet spot.
How? By taking ONE small step per day towards the goal of connecting with others.
What activities count and don’t count?
- Sending a card (electronic or paper) – birthday, congrats, get well, thank you, thinking of you, etc.
- Sending a letter (electronic or paper)
- Making a personal phone call (ha ha, I think that might count double)
- Initiating a coffee date (in person, or virtual)
- Initiating any activity with others that wasn’t going to happen by itself
- Reaching out to an individual client
- Making a list of people I’d like to connect with, and reasons to connect with them
- Accepting invitations from others (I won’t accept them all, of course, but not turning them down counts)
- Connecting others to each other for personal or business reasons
What does not count:
- Facebook birthday greetings (Don’t get me wrong – I LOVE Facebook birthdays! But it’s too easy and fleeting to count towards this particular exercise.)
- Replies to messages initiated by others (It’s only polite.)
- My regular monthly newsletter
- Social media posts
- Blog posts
- Mass marketing efforts
- My regular activities like book club, library volunteering, and PONM meetings
- Attending the activities I’ve initiated
So, I’m still an introvert. Not crazy about big parties, or mingling with strangers, or spending more than 2 hours with any one person (or group) at a time. But if I connect in some small way every day it will add up to a lot by the end of the year, right? And if I miss a day, I promise I won’t beat myself up, I will just get back on track, that’s all.
What do you think?
What is YOUR theme word, or resolution, for 2018?
Do you have any suggestions for my CONNECT theme?
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