The Social Dilemma + 5 Steps for taking a break without leaving Facebook

Have you seen the new Netflix film, The Social Dilemma?

It’s an eye-opening docudrama about how social media platforms manipulate our behavior, even beyond the point of their original intent to make money from targeted advertising. You may have heard this before: If you’re not paying for the product, it means you’re the product.


Don’t leave Facebook — organize it!

keep calm and stay on FacebookI know, I know…..things are bad. Really bad.

Racial tension, worldwide pandemic, financial instability, political division…so many sources of stress on top of the normal stress of our daily lives!

All of the news is upsetting — and some of it is inaccurate or biased. Emotions are running high and there is no end in sight, not really.

And Facebook is… um… shall we say flawed and controversial? It’s really no wonder people are talking again about leaving it!


Organize Your Facebook News Feed for Serenity Now!

Are you feeling like you have no control over what you see in your Facebook News Feed?

Are you on the verge of ditching Facebook altogether out of frustration?

Are you sick of that “Facebook limits you to seeing posts from 26 friends” cut-and-paste meme going around?

I know some of you are, because I’m writing this post by popular request!

So, sit back…relax…take a few deep breaths…and let’s begin with a prayer…LOL?


How to Declutter Your Facebook News Feed (a.k.a. how to stay informed without going crazy)

Before we get into how to declutter your news feed, let’s talk about why you might need to. If there’s anything we can all agree on these days, perhaps it’s the necessity — and the difficulty — of staying informed in this ever-changing political climate. Many people find the glut of news — real and fake — to be very stressful. News of current events can make one feel informed or misled; hopeful or fearful; vindicated or betrayed.


Decluttering Your Facebook Friend List

FACEBOOK FRIEND Clutter Flow Chart

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I’ve joked before about Facebook friend clutter, but never really felt the need to do anything about it. Who cares if a friend never posts, or has abandoned their account without deleting it? How is that hurting me? (more…)

Is Facebook a Godsend to Introverts?

My new theory, triggered by yet another post about introverts in my news feed, is that Facebook (FB) is dominated by introverts. And that all those little-used and abandoned social media accounts belong to extroverts who can’t be bothered with sitting alone in front of a computer, and who would rather be out having face-to-face conversations and participating in group activities.

Hazel Thornton on Facebook

I posed this theory on FB to see what my friends had to say. There were a few who replied that they were, indeed, extroverts who appreciate any and all social outlets, but they really only seemed to be the exceptions that prove the rule.  As one introverted friend observed, “I know some people I consider extroverts who post fairly regularly – usually about the extroverted things they’re doing!”

Additional comments:

FB is less scary than being out in public. (Not that introverts are necessarily shy.)

I do most of my socializing on FB. I don’t even like talking on the phone.

Though I can enjoy being with others, that’s almost never a recharging experience for me.

I agree that FB has been a godsend to this introvert.

As a true introvert, I do find that I “hide” behind my computer, and FB is a good way to reach out to people. Great for marketing, too.

I’m so grateful for the recent flood of supportive materials regarding introversion. I feel relieved and free and without the need to feel guilty for simply being myself.

And my personal favorite:

I think you have uncovered the key to life, the universe, and all knowledge.

I find it amusing when someone (an extrovert) sees me in person and exclaims, “I haven’t seen you in ages!” which may be true, technically speaking, but…are they really forgetting our frequent online interactions? Do those not count somehow? To me those exchanges are as real as in-person time.  And a whole lot easier.

Another thing people (extroverts?) say is that FB has caused a decrease in good old fashioned face-to-face social interaction. I disagree. If I am home on a Saturday night chatting online with FB friends, I can guarantee you that the alternative is not to go out partying. The alternative is to read a good book…alone. I feel MUCH MORE sociable since the advent of social media and, on occasion, have even been known to  get together IN PERSON with someone I’ve gotten to know better online. But only for an hour or two. And then I need a nap!

What do YOU think?

Hazel Thornton is a professional organizer and genealogist based in Albuquerque, New Mexico; creator of The Clutter Flow Chart Collection; and author of Go with the Flow! The Clutter-Clearing Tool Kit for an Organized Life. Visit her online at

How to Save the Awesome Things You Find on Facebook Without Cluttering Your Friends’ News Feeds

Activity logI’ve noticed a rash of disclaimers in my friends’ Facebook posts lately: “I am sharing this so that I’ll be able to find it on my Timeline later.” Indeed, many pages encourage you to share their posts…because it gives them greater exposure! But it’s not the only way to save recipes and such. 

Just to be clear…I’m not complaining about what you want to share with me on Facebook. I am fortunate enough to have lots of interesting friends who share lots of interesting stuff! But if you’re really sharing it ONLY so YOU can have access to it later, I want you to know there are alternatives to having it show up in MY News Feed. Such as: (more…)

Back-to-School Tips from Facebook Fans

Ahhh, Back-to-School….one of my favorite times of year as a kid!

New school supplies (yes, of course, all lined up and containerized) … the smell of freshly sharpened pencils… the endless possibilities of blank notebook paper… reuniting with friends from other neighborhoods… dressing up like a ham for the school play…oh wait, that was Scout, in To Kill a Mockingbird… well, you know what I mean, don’t you? (more…)