I worried that no one would want to come hear me talk about death, especially when it started snowing that morning. But they did! And they loved it. I could tell because they nodded, and laughed, and told me later that they had started conversations with their loved ones about virtual wills and such. Mission accomplished!
Here are some of the ways people reacted to my topic before-hand:
“What do I care who will check my email? I won’t be there.” No, you won’t, but do you really want to burden your loved ones with things they don’t know what to do with, and without a will to guide them? Won’t they be grieving your loss enough as it is without adding a bunch of work and tough decisions to their workload?
“Are you trying to tell us something?” Yes. I am. We all are going to die at some point. So we might as well be prepared, no?
“But…don’t you organize closets, and garages, and such?” Yes. I do…although, I prefer home offices… in part because they are attached to closets and garages and such! And why do you think some of my clients call me to help them? They want to make their own lives easier while they are living, of course, but they also don’t want to leave a big pile of clutter for their loved ones to have to deal with if something should happen to them…which it will…eventually.
I think of these things as a gift to one’s family:
- A regular will and a virtual will …extra credit for writing your own obituary and planning your own memorial service!
- A frank discussion of end-of-life issues (both your wishes and theirs)
- A legacy you can take pride in (rather than a pile of clutter no one knows what to do with)
- Memories in the form of organized photos and labeled keepsakes …a well-documented family history is a bonus!
Maybe if you think of them as a gift too, you will be more willing to take action…?
My interest in illness, death, emergencies, keepsakes, and legacies is nothing new. To prove it, I have gathered together all of my related blog posts, and a number of other resources, into a new Legacy Resource Roundup to help you navigate this sometimes uncomfortable topic. My talk at the recent luncheon consisted of elements from many of these same resources.
Do you have a virtual will? Are you organized for your legacy? Is this a taboo topic of discussion in your family?
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